Unfortunately, bullying does exist and it’s something parents need to look out for. There are many signs you can look for that will help you determine whether or not your child is being bullied, and there are lots of ways you, the parent, can help a bullied child, too.

3 signs your child might be being bullied:

1.  Changes in behavior – It’s important to watch your child’s general mood, behavior and emotional state. One sign to watch for when you’re concerned your child may be a victim of bullying is a sudden change in mood or behavior. If your generally happy child swings into a depressed state that might be a clue they’re being bullied. If your child decides all of a sudden that they want to drop out of a program or activity or they become reluctant to go to school that is another potential sign of bullying. Pay attention to your child’s emotional state as it can explain a lot about their well-being and shed light on any number of difficulties they may be experiencing.

2.  Lost or damaged belongings – If your child begins to come home without lunch money, jewelry, etc. Or if they come home with ripped clothing or damaged belongings they may have experienced bullying. Don’t jump to conclusions as bullying may not be the case, but it’s certainly a possibility. Bullies often times take things from other kids and or force kids to hand over certain belongings. If a bully is physically hurting your child you’ll want to look for rips in clothing along with marks, scratches, bruises on your child’s body.

3.  Comes home hungry and late – Many bullied children arrive home from school hungry and or late. If they consistently come home hungry even though you’ve packed them an extra snack then a bully might be taking their food at lunch everyday. And if they come home late, consider they might be missing the bus or taking the long way home in order to avoid a bully all together. 

How parents can help:

There are lots of ways that parents can get involved. My number one recommendation is to learn to communicate with your child. You’ll need to be able to talk to one another before you’ll be able to ask or answer those difficult questions. Building a relationship with strong communication will also increase the chance your child will open up to you about being bullied in the first place.

Many resources are available within local communities these days, too. Start with your child’s school and reach out to teachers, principals, and counselors – even the school nurse or your child’s bus driver! The more adults you have looking out for your child the better. A school counselor will likely know about support groups and or anti-bullying activities within the community, and a principal or teacher will be able to deliver the appropriate consequences should the bullying be occurring on school grounds.

October is National Bullying Prevention Month!  For more information, go to National Bullying Prevention Center.

Sincerely, 

Daddy Nickell

Robert Nickell, aka Daddy Nickell, father of 7, offers his “5 cents” worth of advice to expectant and new parents.  Daddy Nickell is the founder of Daddyscrubs.com, delivery room duds and daddy gifts and apparel, and the DaddyScrubs blog where he covers topics about parenting all from a Dad’s perspective.

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Unfortunately, bullying exists in your child’s world, but there are ways you can help. As a dad to 7 kids between the ages 9 months and 27 years old, I’ve learned the do’s and don’ts of handling schoolyard bullying.

Do: Teach your child the best ways to handle a bullying situation. If your own child is being bullied, teach them the best method is not to provoke a fight. Rather to simply and calmly (as hard as it might be) walk away and find the nearest adult (teacher or principal) who can help you. If your child is not the person being bullied but rather is witness to another child being bullied they can help by alerting a teacher or principal and being a kind and empathetic friend to the child being bullied.

Don’t: As a dad it’s hard not to want to fight a battle for your child (figuratively speaking), but do not overstep your boundaries. You could possibly make it worse for your child. If you’re a concerned parent call the school and talk with a principal or teacher and tell them the severity of the bullying situation. They’ll take the necessary measure to better watch the bully and give out consequences based on future actions.

Do: Talk! A lot! Talk to your child as much as possible about what’s going on at school, with their friends and their overall lives – you’ll be surprised by the things you’ll learn. Use the opportunity to build your child’s self-esteem as being a victim of bullying can often make a child feel puny. Discuss ways in which your child succeeds in school and at home and the things that make your child really happy. Be their rock. Build upon their strengths by giving them defense mechanisms like talking calmly, making jokes and more.

Don’t: Do nothing. Doing nothing does not work. And as a parent it’s your responsibility to do something to help your child in any situation. Be sure your moves are calculated, as your child will likely be watching and learning from your way of handling the situation.

Handling bullying can be hard, but there are ways in which parents should help by getting involved and teaching their children the best ways to handle situations. It’s important to be on the lookout for signs of bullying, and to handle each situation delicately and with dignity, as your child will be watching and learning from you.

Bottom line: teach your child to be a kind and empathetic human being who looks out for others and knows how to react and handle a bullying situation should they ever be caught in one.

Good luck and happy parenting!

Sincerely,

Daddy Nickell

Daddy Nickell, father of 7, founder of Daddyscrubs.com and the Daddyscrubs parenting blog.

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