By Daddy Nickell
My mom and dad are the force of reconciliation in our family. I am not saying we squabble, or fight as siblings even after 50 years of life, but my parents keep us together with celebration, tradition and the importance of family. Today they are in their 80’s, and love to have “the family” over to their house for holidays, dinner, and conversation. Because of this they have instilled an inherent quality in not only my brother and sister, but our spouses, and our kids (nieces and nephews), as well.
When I was growing up, I remember going to “Family Reunions” in the Midwest, where everyone at the park, or the house was a relative. I could never believe how many uncles, aunts, and cousins I had. It seemed like a natural bond of love and caring that was unconditionally given by all. It felt like a fraternity, or special club that I belonged to simply because I was part of the family. I saw places where my dad used to play when he was a child, I saw the church my parents were married in and I slept in the basement of my granny’s house in the summer where my mom was raised.
So, why does it take holidays to bring the family together? There are plenty of movies, and TV shows about the family getting together for holiday celebrations, from the dysfunctional, to the new loves, to the aging and dying. For me, any of those shows can bring a tear to my eye, and smile to my cheek.
I believe in tradition, and celebration of family. If it takes a holiday to get it done, then that is OK with me. I can only thank my mom and dad for bringing us all together, teaching us about the importance of family, and instilling in us the desire to continue these traditions for our families and the generations to follow.
If you are reading this, and you were not raised in a family of tradition, holidays, and celebration, or you missed out for one reason or another, it is never too late to reignite the fire within. Teach those around you, and start a fresh journey no matter what stage of life you are residing.
Robert Nickell, aka Daddy Nickell, father of 7, offers his “5 cents” worth of advice to expectant and new parents. Daddy Nickell is the founder of Daddyscrubs.com, delivery room duds and daddy gifts and apparel, and the DaddyScrubs blog where he covers topics about parenting all from a Dad’s perspective.